Wanted to go sarge yesterday but decided to pass on it due huge lack of sleep in the last 5-6 days where I slept for average of 4-5 hours. I still couldn’t resist and opened a girl on my way home.

Hb8.5

I decided to open this one just for sake of opening.

She was sitting near university of Toronto stadium and I opened her by asking if she knows what is the place is. Tried transition by asking her if she is a student and then pretty much ejected from the set.

As I continue to walk and analyze my approach, I decide that from now on I will not do approaches for sake of approaching because it just not worth it, from now on I will either not open at all when I am tired, or if open will push it as far as I can.

I continue to walk and arrive in “second cup” coffee shop. I sit, and as I am about to drink my coffee I feel somebody starring me from the counter line. I turn my head, and it is HB8.5 Middle Eastern girl who I approached in this same coffee shop (from my report on 05-12-2011) and who gave me attitude and told me to speak up. I am really not in mood to reopen her as I come here often and the place is small and I really don’t want any drama. She definitely recognized me, during the coffee ordering she passed nearby me probably 4-5 times and looked on me every time. I might open her one day if there natural proximity and we happen to sit close by. While this whole thing lasted, I couldn’t help myself but having a big smile on my face.

I left after around 15 minutes and was thinking about our previous interaction, and something hit me. She was not bitchy to me, she just gave me feedback from female on how soft my voice volume is (I mostly speak not loudly and in sarges I noticed better to be loud than to be quiet).

So, I went to sarge yesterday, after not sarging for almost entire week, because of rainy weather. I opened 5 sets and pretty happy that getting approaches in larger volume comes much more easily for me.

There is no much to write and nothing extraordinary happened, but I am pleased to report that my verbal game does show significant progress, and I am very happy with that. I am also glad to see that most of my sets are hooking. I seriously now need to start lead my interaction in terms of kino, insta dates, and sexual tension and be more alpha.

Two small personal achievements that happened are: I opened set of two and I successfully reopened girl who I approached previously.

Few interesting things to mention:

I was opened by 5-6 women during the last 7 days, this never happened to me before, it might be because the way I started to dress or because the changes I did to my body language. I am not yet really sure what happening.

Since I started to dress good, I feel sometimes that the girl is under dressed when I open her.

I am on my way to sarging place when I see some strange demonstration right beside the subway, it says something about being against bosses and there 3 people lying on the ground, it’s looks very funny. I am not sure yet what it is all about and so I open some Asian chick (HB 7.5) who standing beside me by asking her what’s going on. She smiles and says she doesn’t know, I point on laying people and say it is just too funny and start laughing (it was really absurdly funny) she starts laughing with me but since I am not transition she walks away.

I am about to enter the park when I see set of two, hb7.5 and hb8, I am about to pass them when I realize they both play with their hair and I am only one guy who is around. I pass them 2-3 meter’s and then decide to open. Turn back and open them with my standard non direct asking them about coffee shops in the area. They both hook up immediately and short conversation insures, they both give me IOI’s and some good eye contact, but unfortunately I don’t know how to proceed, so I wish them good day and eject.

I walk a little bit and spot girl who is sitting by herself and smoking, she looks cute to I approach and ask for the lighter.

Her: yes of course, here

Me: pink lighter how did you find one, they not common

Her: yes it is not easy to find one [qualifying]

Me: so do you think it is going to rain today [just transitioning]

Her: I hope not

Me: actually I think I know you

Her: uh-hm?

Me: about a week ago I asked if you know where I can find a starbacks or second cup, it happened right there [pointing to the park are]

Her: oh right I remember you [big smile]

She is one of Asian girls who I opened previously in this very park and who followed me and kept proximity after i failed to hook and transition. This time around she is very happy to see me and gives me big and happy smile, I pop to sit and we go into conversation. I assumed familiarity and basically treated her like some girl I know long time ago. Apparently she waiting for a friend and I tease her and push her telling that her friend is lucky, the conversation went well and within 40 seconds she started to tell me about her family in china, I qualify her on knowing her roots (she was born and raised in Canada), I talk some more about china and the inventions that china gave to world.

Me: you know sushi came from china as well

Her: curious look

Me: Chinese sailors used to store fish between cooked levels of rice to preserve fish when transporting it to large distances, and sailor would be hungry he would just cut piece of this and eat it. Later on japan adopted and made entire cuisine out of it.

Her: wow, I had no clue

Me: or take pasta, everybody thinks Italian invented this, but originally it comes from china.

Her: yes it is true, I know about it [big smile, and strong eye contact]

For now I created pull, it is time for some push.

Me: but what’s up with that huge china wall they did build, that’s so weird [push and qualification]

Her: I actually don’t know why, but you right, it is strange [sweet she qualifies herself]

We continued to talk and the vibe was amazing. I made a slight mistake of sitting slightly far from her, so I cannot really comfortable kino her, so I concentrating on fucking her with my eyes and strong eye contact. Eventually after like 3-4 minutes she is waving to somebody, it is her friend that is coming. I tell her it is time for to go than and tell her I will probably see her around (I saw her few times in this same park already) and will come to talk (future projections).

As I am about to leave and starting to stand, she stops me and asks my name and giving her hand away, we exchange names, she doesn’t want me to leave, but I don’t feel comfortable to staying and dealing with her friend.

Looking back I probably could Facebook close her and game from there, her attraction was huge to me, but no time for comfort, otherwise I would for sure go for number close. Also, I made some minor mistakes by not taking more comfortable than her body language position.

It’s getting colder and looks like can start raining any second. I leave the park and go for coffee shop. I grab coffee and sit on one of the table. There is some cute HB7.5 who is doing her homework, she looks really concentrated. I don’t make eye contact and don’t show any interested in her. I notice few times that she leans into my direction; I take it as ioi and decide to open. It appears she studies Latin and we talk a little bit about the language and its usage. I keep it short and then let her do her homework. She was giving me a good vibe and added at least 50% to conversation, but I sensed something strange and couldn’t point on it, she just was somewhat socially weird, at least it felt like that.

I finish my coffee and go outside and spot girl sitting on bench doing homework of some kind. I open her by telling her that I noticed her before an hour ago when I was going to coffee shop sitting and doing homework, I tell her that her pink skirt make her easily noticeable. She is smiling and tells me that she is theater director, but her vibe is “is this guy is interested in me or he really just asks about what I am doing” I guess my half ass opener confused her. It doesn’t help that 20 seconds into interaction I get a phone call that I need to answer; I know it basically will kill the set. I quickly done with the call and when I come back it obvious that it is over.

I will keep this short this time. I am going out a lot and writing lengthy reports starting to become a problem, because it tends to consume somewhat big amount of time. Not to mention I started opening girls just in random situations if there suddenly proximity. Just don’t have time to write about it all.

This one is mostly about my sticking points and notes to myself of what needs to be done. It is also comes few days after the sarge itself because I was working a lot on improving my game and needed to think about few things.

Monday Sarge (20.06)

HB9
She was sitting in the park and doing a home work. I came over with my standard opener and then transitioned by asking what she is studying. She mentioned bf early in conversation and that she has class in 10 minutes. I am not sure why I did not eject.

I think bf was legitimate and so I did not go for # close.

HB8
I approached this one in another park. We started talk she was very receptive but behaved somewhat strange. I learned why when she offered me a beer lol. Again, same story as with previous girl this one mentioned bf few times during the conversation. Her being drunk is a big turn off for me, but instead of ejecting like an idiot I stayed and continued to game her.

It went surprisingly good and she was extremely receptive.

Eventually it is time to go and for some reason I decide to go for # close despite her being somewhat drunk. Suddenly she decides to be a bitch and raises her voice to high pitch and loudly tells me she doesn’t think it is a good idea and keeps rambling how she doesn’t really wants to do it. There a bunch of people sitting beside us, and they start looking on us. I stay calm like rock, cut her in middle and tell her it is ok, she doesn’t need to worry, wish her good day and before she can answer turn my back to her and walk away.

It did not feel good, I did not expect to be blown so harshly, nothing seemed like something like that can happen. Next time drunken girl in a middle of the day, time to eject.

Hb7.5
I have that bad feeling in my stomach after such blow out, but I know it is nothing that I did and I decide to make more approaches. I have a moment of clarity when I realize it is a part of the deal in game to have something like happening occasionally. I spot this Philippine girl sitting by herself, I go and open her. We speak a little bit she gives some attitude but stays there and talk.

Nothing about her is sounds good beside her looks, she is very negative and in all her stories she is a victim, like people treat her bad, her job (at bank) is bad, and life is one black hole.

I feel like I had enough of her and I just say good byes and leave.

Notes to myself and my observations:

Tough day, nothing went right and I wasted time on girl who I needed to eject right from the beginning.

I made however few experiments with my nonverbal and was coming more confidently and displayed more masculine behaviors. I think I overdid it, my body language is not bad right now, but I need to up it, just not as much as I did on Monday. Also, must start apply kino and lead and lead. I noticed if it is just conversation but I don’t lead it to direction of escalating and kino , attraction goes down after about 15 minutes. It is the missing piece in my attraction and no amount of dhv or humor or tease can replace it. It all should go together.

If girl brings bf early in conversation she either has one or really not interested in me and it is time to move on and eject. Now when I have no problems with approaching , it is time to realize if girl is “no” girl and stop wasting my time on them.

No more drunken people during day time, it leads to stupid situations.

Will try to go for # closer to the end, but stay around and have some more talk before I leave. This hb8.3 from Brazil was so into me it was ridiculous, but I think she realized it was a pickup after I left right after # close, that she decided to cut it.

Will try to bounce them to another place if possible even if this place just few meters away from current pickup location.

Need start to looking into ways to induce some bits of light sexual tension into my interactions.

I pretty much approached lots of girls like 6-8. Had an interesting conversation with one of them, but she was on older side so I ejected without even trying to go for the number. Not much really to write about that sarge only if to say I am getting more confident and actually opened running girl who was standing and waiting for lights, nothing special here, but the place was packed with people and everybody could hear the conversation, and right after she continued running opened some fat chick who was walking beside me and saw me opening the running girl. Both openings went good but were very short. Another highlight opened girl on her mobile phone, she actually put her phone aside to talk to me, but again she was on an older side and I ejected pretty much shortly after my opener.

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Yesterday went to sarge again.
Approaches: 3
Numbers: 2

Sunday morning I wake up late, like 1pm. By the time I finish my coffee and eat some food it is almost 2.30PM. I am thinking about cancelling it for today, but eventually decide to go and do it anyways. I dress up nicely with some light yellow and green shirt, guess jeans and nice leather shoes.

I arrive to the lake beach and starting to walk. I don’t have AA but I decide to take a walk first and get feel for the environment since it’s been long time since my last sarge here. I make a 20 minutes’ walk turning back and approach the first girl.

HB7.5
I approached this Persian looking girl with camera in my hand and asked if she mind to take a pic of me. I transition right there about book she is reading and when she says she studying economics I am joking about her being next reach banker. Despite me doing few attempts to make a conversation and having a good vibe, she is not in mood to talk and I decide to eject.

She was nice and polite and laughed on my jokes but everything in her said she doesn’t want to talk to stranger.

As I walking from her I thinking that I need to start plow more. Despite her rejection I feel that I made a good approach actually.

I walk some more and see girl sitting by herself in crowded area.

HB8.5
I approach her with same opener as previous HB.
Me: hey, do you mind taking a pic of me?
Her: yes of course (smiling)

She takes a pic, asks me if I want one more.
Her: do you want one more?
Me: (with big smile) I cannot really tell you until I see this one first.
Her: (starting to laugh)
I come closer, look on the pic and say that I like it and tell her that she is good and ask her if she ever took photography classes (the pic was crap, but whatever lol), she says no and I continue by asking what she is up today and what she is doing here.

Apparently she is medical student and wants to be a doctor and comes from a family where both parents are doctors. She is the only child in her family and I joke about her that she must got all the attention and possibly spoiled.

The conversation with her went ok I guess, but one thing I found hard is that she was not really qualifying herself or seeking any kind of comfort for that matter until very late stages of conversation. So I did most of talking slightly teasing her and putting some dhv in my stories. Eventually she opened up and I got sense that she is attracted. Like at one point I noticed she was listening to me with her eyes looking directly into mine and her mouth slightly open. My guess it that she views herself as a high value and didn’t really perceive me to be on same value level.

Eventually after like 20 minutes she says sorry and she needs to check her phone because her friend is coming and he doesn’t know the area well. It takes her 20 seconds to do so and I realize I need to go for close even though I am unsure if I should.

This time around after watching countless videos on how other PUA teachers close #, I decide stop going with giving her choice, but rather just tell her we going to meet for coffee and give her phone and see where it goes.

Her: it was very nice talking to you (damn I get that almost all the time)
Me: Yes it was nice talking to you as well, I really enjoyed this conversation
Me: we should meet for coffee
Her: (very surprized and suddenly shy lol) ok, sure
Me: (giving her my phone) put your number here and I will give you a call tomorrow or in few next days.
Her: (putting the number)
Me: (giving her hand) really enjoyed talking to you, talk to you soon.
Her: thanks. Yes, talk to you soon.

We both leave and I continue to walk looking for the next girl.

HB8.3
I come to the crowded area, I spot two girls sitting together, I notice they are not together but I am not ready to approach when somebody else in that close proximity (same bench).

I decide to take a break and sit to smoke. By the time I finish my cigarette the first girl is gone and the HB is still sitting there and reading the book. I stand up and go to make and approach with same opener I used on all previous girls.

It appears she is from Brazil and been in Canada for only 2 mere weeks. She barely speaks English. I hooked her up very easily and for once it was very refreshing to see feminine girl who is in touch with herself and her emotions. Half trough the words and half trough the signs we had somewhat interesting conversation. She is here to study English and going to be staying 6 to 12 months.

This was also probably the best interaction of the day. I realized early that I come as a very high value to someone like her, I am local, speak English, well dressed and established in my life. So I run no attraction, and started right off by qualifying her. It is also first interaction where I was doing what I did not do so far, I been doing lots of kino (social and friendly kino ) and she seemed to be very receptive for it. It was very easy to qualify her and build a comfort , and I knew by the time I gone she better have a real reason to think why I like her as a person.

We spoke probably like 20 minutes, lots of touches (mostly mine; she was little bit on shy side but receptive to my kino and leaned to me a lot. Every time we couldn’t understand each other I would just type in my iphone and use it for closing proximity.

Eventually she ask what is the time right now, I tell her and has that concerned look on her face, but then says it is ok and decides to stay little bit longer. I know time running out and so I go for close.

I went with the same technic as with previous girl as it seems to be working much better.

Me: you and me we should go for coffee.
Her: ok ok, oh I cannot today
Me: (laughing and thinking damn she was down for instadate) no not today, other time
Her: ok ok, good good
Me: (giving her my phone) put your number
Her: (all worried as she goes to her bag to take her phone out) oh I don’t know my number, I don’t remember it
Me: no problem, I will give you my number and you give me a call
Her: ok, good good

I give her number she calls me back right there. I give her light touch on the shoulder than shake her hand and tell her that we are going to talk very soon.

Unfortunately due the later time and sun going down, there were no more girls to approach. Next time will try to go in earlier time for this location.

Notes to myself:
The new closing technic seems to be working much better for me and also congruent with me, will be using it from now on, it is also somewhat step forward for me because I used to have problem closing for #’s.

I still need to work on attraction, the way I see it there two ways to sarge. One is to be very casual and close girl in a friendly manner and then leave all the attraction and kino stuff to day1 (like Paul Janka does it). Second one is to create good amount attraction and kino and hopefully with some sexual tension tuned down a little bit and close her. So, I will experiment with both of them.

It is time to start to thinking about my txt/phone game now. Anyone has a good txt ideas to text after I met girl and text her after an 20 minutes to an hour. Currently it is just a basic text saying it was pleasure meeting her and we will talk soon. I am open to better ideas than this one.

Dressing well (doesn’t mean expensive) does matter in the day game , girls notice this stuff immediately.

Highlight of the day: opened some girl on the subway and it was extremely crowded. Seems like my level of confidence starting to go up.

Update:
HB8.5 tried to send her text and it appears she gave me some land line (even though I saw that she had a mobile phone). I am not sure what to do about it, probably will call today in evening and see what that number is and then delete it. It is probably fake one.

HB8.3: sent her txt but got no answer, not really surprised, her English is seriously in bad shape. Going to give her call today as well and see from there.

Went out to sarge on Wednesday, the weather was good and so I decided to do something about it. Went to same place I always go and as I came I spot 3 girls sitting by themselves in different parts of park. My AA however kicks hard this time and I am having a problem handling that. It’s took good 30-40 minutes before I calmed down. Funny enough once I stopped giving myself excuses and realized it is AA; I calmed within 5 minutes and was ready to approach.

Once again I realized that it is way better to approach right away than let her notice you and only while after make your approach.

Hb8
This girl was sitting by herself and is really good looking Asian, I approached her she spoke polite but was not interested in continuing and pretty much ignored 2 of my attempts to transition. I kind of surprized to see my indirect filing for the first time, but happy that I made an approach and wish her a good day and eject.

Hb5
I make a round in the park and smoke a cigarette while walking when I spot this girl, we made a strong eye contact, but I filed to approach her initially right there, so on my way back I decide to approach her anyways. As I come closer I realize she is not as good looking as I thought before. Despite being so not good looking she gave me an attitude like some kind of HB9 lol, she was very unpleasant to talk to.

Me: (noticing lighter and book about yoga): how come you doing yoga and you smoking? (With big smile on my face)
Her: because that’s what I do when I am done with yoga (said dead serious)
Me: anyways, thanks for the help and have a good day.

I approached some other girl as well but don’t really remember how it was, either way the interaction went same. I decided to walk home instead of taking subway and decide to approach any girl I will see alone on my way home.

Soon enough I spot some gorgeous girl sitting all by herself, crap I am with my cigarette. I stop aside and finishing my cigarette. Looking back on it I should been just throw it aside and just make an approach.

HB 8.5
I open her with the question asking about some place. She answers and seems to be very enthusiastic. Apparently place belong to university and I use it to transition and asking her if she is student, she says she graduated and says she is major in Greek history and literature. I continue with the rings routine and she seems to be intrigued by it.

I sit beside her and we start talking. And then, I fail. The entire conversation she did not let me to talk, she did like 95% talking. It is never happened to me and I am completely lost. Five minutes after we talk, she suddenly snaps out and remembers that she had a singing class. She breaks out eye contact and conversation, her body language turn back while she saying it was very nice talking to me.

I am completely lost and wish her good day and eject. I don’t go for # close because I just don’t feel that there is enough attraction. I mean, she made all the talk and it looked like from the point zero she just went completely to building comfort without any building of attraction.

I am not sure what happened there never even asked me a single question beside where I work; the rest was all about her talking. As I walk away and stand aside I notice she is not in rush to pack her stuff and she makes multiple eye contacts with me, her body language is kind of unsure and not confident.

Damn it happens to me a lot, girl will stick around or come around, give me multiple strong eye contacts after I ejected. I need to figure out what the hell is going on. I probably should persist more on getting the phone.