I pretty much approached lots of girls like 6-8. Had an interesting conversation with one of them, but she was on older side so I ejected without even trying to go for the number. Not much really to write about that sarge only if to say I am getting more confident and actually opened running girl who was standing and waiting for lights, nothing special here, but the place was packed with people and everybody could hear the conversation, and right after she continued running opened some fat chick who was walking beside me and saw me opening the running girl. Both openings went good but were very short. Another highlight opened girl on her mobile phone, she actually put her phone aside to talk to me, but again she was on an older side and I ejected pretty much shortly after my opener.
Yesterday went to sarge again.
Sunday morning I wake up late, like 1pm. By the time I finish my coffee and eat some food it is almost 2.30PM. I am thinking about cancelling it for today, but eventually decide to go and do it anyways. I dress up nicely with some light yellow and green shirt, guess jeans and nice leather shoes.
I arrive to the lake beach and starting to walk. I don’t have AA but I decide to take a walk first and get feel for the environment since it’s been long time since my last sarge here. I make a 20 minutes’ walk turning back and approach the first girl.
I approached this Persian looking girl with camera in my hand and asked if she mind to take a pic of me. I transition right there about book she is reading and when she says she studying economics I am joking about her being next reach banker. Despite me doing few attempts to make a conversation and having a good vibe, she is not in mood to talk and I decide to eject.
She was nice and polite and laughed on my jokes but everything in her said she doesn’t want to talk to stranger.
As I walking from her I thinking that I need to start plow more. Despite her rejection I feel that I made a good approach actually.
I walk some more and see girl sitting by herself in crowded area.
I approach her with same opener as previous HB.
Me: hey, do you mind taking a pic of me?
Her: yes of course (smiling)
She takes a pic, asks me if I want one more.
Her: do you want one more?
Me: (with big smile) I cannot really tell you until I see this one first.
Her: (starting to laugh)
I come closer, look on the pic and say that I like it and tell her that she is good and ask her if she ever took photography classes (the pic was crap, but whatever lol), she says no and I continue by asking what she is up today and what she is doing here.
Apparently she is medical student and wants to be a doctor and comes from a family where both parents are doctors. She is the only child in her family and I joke about her that she must got all the attention and possibly spoiled.
The conversation with her went ok I guess, but one thing I found hard is that she was not really qualifying herself or seeking any kind of comfort for that matter until very late stages of conversation. So I did most of talking slightly teasing her and putting some dhv in my stories. Eventually she opened up and I got sense that she is attracted. Like at one point I noticed she was listening to me with her eyes looking directly into mine and her mouth slightly open. My guess it that she views herself as a high value and didn’t really perceive me to be on same value level.
Eventually after like 20 minutes she says sorry and she needs to check her phone because her friend is coming and he doesn’t know the area well. It takes her 20 seconds to do so and I realize I need to go for close even though I am unsure if I should.
This time around after watching countless videos on how other PUA teachers close #, I decide stop going with giving her choice, but rather just tell her we going to meet for coffee and give her phone and see where it goes.
Her: it was very nice talking to you (damn I get that almost all the time)
Me: Yes it was nice talking to you as well, I really enjoyed this conversation
Me: we should meet for coffee
Her: (very surprized and suddenly shy lol) ok, sure
Me: (giving her my phone) put your number here and I will give you a call tomorrow or in few next days.
Her: (putting the number)
Me: (giving her hand) really enjoyed talking to you, talk to you soon.
Her: thanks. Yes, talk to you soon.
We both leave and I continue to walk looking for the next girl.
I come to the crowded area, I spot two girls sitting together, I notice they are not together but I am not ready to approach when somebody else in that close proximity (same bench).
I decide to take a break and sit to smoke. By the time I finish my cigarette the first girl is gone and the HB is still sitting there and reading the book. I stand up and go to make and approach with same opener I used on all previous girls.
It appears she is from Brazil and been in Canada for only 2 mere weeks. She barely speaks English. I hooked her up very easily and for once it was very refreshing to see feminine girl who is in touch with herself and her emotions. Half trough the words and half trough the signs we had somewhat interesting conversation. She is here to study English and going to be staying 6 to 12 months.
This was also probably the best interaction of the day. I realized early that I come as a very high value to someone like her, I am local, speak English, well dressed and established in my life. So I run no attraction, and started right off by qualifying her. It is also first interaction where I was doing what I did not do so far, I been doing lots of kino (social and friendly kino ) and she seemed to be very receptive for it. It was very easy to qualify her and build a comfort , and I knew by the time I gone she better have a real reason to think why I like her as a person.
We spoke probably like 20 minutes, lots of touches (mostly mine; she was little bit on shy side but receptive to my kino and leaned to me a lot. Every time we couldn’t understand each other I would just type in my iphone and use it for closing proximity.
Eventually she ask what is the time right now, I tell her and has that concerned look on her face, but then says it is ok and decides to stay little bit longer. I know time running out and so I go for close.
I went with the same technic as with previous girl as it seems to be working much better.
Me: you and me we should go for coffee.
Her: ok ok, oh I cannot today
Me: (laughing and thinking damn she was down for instadate) no not today, other time
Her: ok ok, good good
Me: (giving her my phone) put your number
Her: (all worried as she goes to her bag to take her phone out) oh I don’t know my number, I don’t remember it
Me: no problem, I will give you my number and you give me a call
Her: ok, good good
I give her number she calls me back right there. I give her light touch on the shoulder than shake her hand and tell her that we are going to talk very soon.
Unfortunately due the later time and sun going down, there were no more girls to approach. Next time will try to go in earlier time for this location.
Notes to myself:
The new closing technic seems to be working much better for me and also congruent with me, will be using it from now on, it is also somewhat step forward for me because I used to have problem closing for #’s.
I still need to work on attraction, the way I see it there two ways to sarge. One is to be very casual and close girl in a friendly manner and then leave all the attraction and kino stuff to day1 (like Paul Janka does it). Second one is to create good amount attraction and kino and hopefully with some sexual tension tuned down a little bit and close her. So, I will experiment with both of them.
It is time to start to thinking about my txt/phone game now. Anyone has a good txt ideas to text after I met girl and text her after an 20 minutes to an hour. Currently it is just a basic text saying it was pleasure meeting her and we will talk soon. I am open to better ideas than this one.
Dressing well (doesn’t mean expensive) does matter in the day game , girls notice this stuff immediately.
Highlight of the day: opened some girl on the subway and it was extremely crowded. Seems like my level of confidence starting to go up.
HB8.5 tried to send her text and it appears she gave me some land line (even though I saw that she had a mobile phone). I am not sure what to do about it, probably will call today in evening and see what that number is and then delete it. It is probably fake one.
HB8.3: sent her txt but got no answer, not really surprised, her English is seriously in bad shape. Going to give her call today as well and see from there.