Session: 3 (May 29, 2010) Saturday.
Phones: 0 (i am not there yet).
Duration: 3 hours (i really need to work on this, as i lose a lot of time walking around).
I been going to it for entire week now. After entire week (at least one approach at day) i was leaving weekend for the direct approach.
I kept the weekend for the direct approach that I decided to do at the lake. I figured out doing direct in mall will be hard for me, and for the first time I maybe better find a sarging spot where I can make my approach in non busy place.
I must admit, I fairly proud of myself to go direct after just only around 7 indirect approaches even though the results is nothing special and overall feeling is that i definitely could do much better. But i am still learning and so I have no doubt that I will improve as a time will go.
I woke up in the morning in a good mood excited about the day today, went out, ate sushi and went to the lake. The main plan is make approach and get out of there right away.
After arriving at the lake i see many people and my AA is start kicking. I walk long distance on my leg and cannot find a courage to actually approach. i even found myself in some moment realizing that anything i say to myself is an excuse, but still it was hard to approach direct when i never actually did it before (only one time long ago).
on a half way i spot cute Asian girl, she is walking toward me and there is no one around. i really don’t have an excuse to not approach. she stops few meters from me and starts dialing something on her mobile. I really don’t have any more excuses. I come from a side, say “Hi”. No reaction , she did not even hear me, then she notices me, and i deliver my opener “Hi, I know it is kind of forward of me, but i think you very cute and i wanted to come and say it to you”. She answers “oh, thank you”, giving me some very intense eye contact. I say to her that i better get to go and leave without even saying hi.
I noticed that once i really decided to approach her the AA is disappear. That approach is also showed to me that while i do have game plan after initial approach i really need to stack some material together.
With her I really just wanted to see what will be a girl reaction to direct approach.
One of the most best good looking girls i saw, with amazing body toned body.
As i make on my way back i spot this very beautiful girl laying on the grass all by herself. she is so good looking that i can actually see how every guy around looking on her with “i want you” eyes lol. I pass her at the first, then stop, then evaluate situation then decide to approach. I also kind of like the fact that this approach will push me out of my comfort zone and that everybody will watch me while i do it. So i look on her and go in. I come and notice that she listening to iPod , so i just stop in front of her kind of half sitting until she notices me, then i sign her to take iPod off. I deliver my opener she goes, “thank you, it is so flattering” , i then ask her how come she manages to stay on the sun for so long, and she tells me about her being half Italian. and then i stale. it creates awkward moment, i recover but too late. she loses interest, i try ask more questions. the more i am there the more I get the feeling that she doesn’t want to talk anymore. So i say bye and eject. At the end she did not even give me eye contact or looked at me at all.
As i walk from her I notice that everybody is looking. It is funny feeling but it feels good.
Something interesting happened here:
I go to Union station, thinking i can approach somebody there, as i go in i spot HB smoking outside, i decided to approach but she talking on the phone, so i just stop and sit not far from there and start to mess with my new blackberry.
Suddenly out of nowhere some old guy comes out and sits right beside her, he looks fairly creepy even to me. 5 minutes after she stands and leaves the place.
I continue to sit and wait for maybe another HB as at this time i am fairly tired of walking around. Lol the creep leaves, and comes back and 3 times like that. Can you say what the hell lol eventually i leave too.
I go to the washroom and there 2 guys open me with opinion opener about if hat looks bad on an Asian guy. It did felt like i been opened just for sake of it. The guy had fairly nice body language but his hat been taking it all down making him look immature. I figured out somebody trying to sarge so i told to guy truth, told him that he is better off without the hat. Then we go outside of washroom and he tries to qualify me and make some comfort . He seemed to be a nice person. I just left after that pretty much.
But it was one of an interesting things today.
After walking some more i am heading to my living area. I feel like i did set number of approaches but over all feel that in this amount of time i could do more approaches and this is something i really need to start working on. By this time i want to go to bar and have some beer after walking for so long on this hot sun, but i decide i will go only once i make one more approach. Eventually after spending long time and not finding no one to approach i decide that i will just sit and wait, and when HB passes i will approach her, i feel i walked enough for today lol
I sit and sure enough after not long time hb appears, i go after her and make my approach. She says “thank you” and i realize that with my approach i just fried all her brain activity lol. I extend my hand say my name she starts saying something very nervously, then cuts herself and says her name and shake my hand lol. I eject. Right before i leave she says “thank you” again lol.
At this point i realize once again that with direct approach some stacked humor material just must!
I take a break and go to the bar, the beer never tasted so good lol
HB 8 (indirect)
I am getting out of the bar, realizing one beer really doesn’t feels like drinking at all, walk to subway station and decide to approach someone more. I spot this HB sitting all by herself and smoking, so i approach and ask her about if there are any nice parks in the area. She is very engaged, surprised that i approached, very emotional and we have a nice conversation with her for about 5 minutes about different topics. Something says to me that she either drunk or under a drugs influence. It feels like later one, i feel big turn off, so i nicely say bye and eject.
HB 7.5 (inderect)
I arrive home and as i walk through the front door of my building i notice some HB running. I turning back, smiling and keep the door open for her. I then go “It must be your lucky day” and laugh. She laughing back we go into elevator. She is about in her late 20′s. She is very engaging, playing with her hair looking on me, and we talk about whether and how it is nice that summer finally arrived. I got a feeling she wanted a number exchange, but she is my neighbor and we live in same building so i don’t feel like going for it.
Going tomorrow to sarge again for direct approach, but going to push myself to make the approach in much busier environment.
I have some observations and positive and negative points to write about today sarging session. But i am tired to type, so will do it tomorrow, hopefully before i go to sarge.